It may be an obvious thing to say, but I think fantasy is an excellent way to communicate the things that turn you on. I also think it's one of those things that is obvious, only when you see it written down or said out loud.
I've seen several comments that report my blog has inspired some better communication, or even a confession or two. You have no idea how chuffed this makes me feel! But I have to remind myself that one should not take this first step too lightly: communication / confession is a continuous occupation. I can only wish you can keep at it, and good luck.